CHAPTER 3 (THE POWER OF HABIT)

THE POWER OF HABIT

Chapter 3: The golden rule of habit change – why transformation occurs
You can never truly extinguish bad habits. Rather, to change a habit, you must keep the old cue, and deliver the old reward, but insert a new routine. That’s the rule; if you use the same cue, and provide the same reward, you can shift the routine and change the habit. Almost any behavior can be transformed if the cue and reward stay the same.

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AA succeeds because it helps alcoholics use the same cues, and get the same reward, but it shift the routine. The program forces people to identify the cues and rewards that encourage their alcoholic habits, and then helps them find new behaviors. To change an old habit you must address an old craving. You have to keep the same cues and rewards as before, and feed the craving by inserting a new routine.
Often, intoxication itself doesn’t make the list. Alcoholics crave a drink because it offers escape, relaxation, companionship, the blunting of anxieties, and an opportunity for emotional release. They might crave a cocktail to forget their worries. But they don’t necessarily crave a cocktail to forget their worries. The physical effects of alcohol are often one of the least rewarding parts of drinking to addicts.
AA forces you to create new routines for what to do each night instead of drinking. AA: s methods have been refined into therapies that can be used to disrupt almost any pattern.
Often, we don’t really understand the craving driving our behaviors until we look for them.
AA believing example: Those alcoholics that believed that some higher power had entered their lives were more likely to make it through the stressful periods with their sobriety intact. It wasn’t god that mattered, it was the belief itself that made a difference. Once people learned how to believe in something, that skill started spilling over to other parts of their lives, until they started believing they could change. Belief was the ingredient that made a reworked habit loop into a permanent behavior.
Even if you give people better habits, it doesn’t repair why they started drinking in the first place. Eventually they ́ll have a bad day, and no new routine is going to make everything seem ok. What can make a difference is believing that they can cope with that stress without alcohol.
AA trains in how to believe in something until they believe in the program and themselves.
“If it worked for that guy, I guess it can work for me”. There is something powerful about groups and shared experiences. People might be skeptical about their ability to change if they ́re by themselves, but a group will convince them to suspend disbelief. A community creates belief.
Change occurs among other people. When people join groups where change seems possible, the potential for that change to occur becomes more real. Belief is easier when it occurs within a community.
If we keep the same cue and the same reward, a new routine can be inserted. But that’s not enough. For a habit to stay changed, people must believe change is possible. And most often, that belief only emerges with the help of a group.
Chapter conclusions: If you want to change a habit, you must find an alternative route, and your odds for success go up dramatically when you commit to changing as part of a group. Belief is essential, and it grows out of a communal experience, even if that community is only as large as two people.